Taylor Swift was writing songs about heart ache, being a teenager and boys right about the time these things were coming into my life. This is something I am forever grateful for, because there is nothing better than listening to a song you can totally relate to!
Her song, ‘Fifteen’, was one I was listening to in the car the other day with my friend Hannah. The song tells you that ‘in your life you’ll do things greater than dating the boy on the football team’. Not only is this totally TRUE, it’s got me thinking: if I could go back, knowing what I know now, what would I tell my younger self?
So here are a few of the nuggets of wisdom I would give young me.
- Put number one first sometimes (that’s you). Give yourself some TLC, investing in yourself is never a waste of time. If you take care of you, you’ll have far more energy to help others.
- The people around you should add to your life.According to Jim Rohn, you become like the five people you spend the most time with. So choose carefully.
- Your sensitivity is not an imperfection. Your emotions are the good stuff. We live in a world of non-stop comparisons. Let go on who you think you should be and celebrate who you are. You are worthy.
- Say the words ‘are you OK?’ more often. People need to know they’re not alone. That people care. They’re four little words, but can mean so much.
- Asking for help is OK.You are not a burden. a) people love helping and b) how would you feel if the tables were turned? Asking for help is not the same as losing control. Never feel isolated. (And never underestimate the power of a cup of tea and a note pad. Write everything that’s on your mind onto that notepad- it helps with perspective).
- If you have the power to make someone happy… do it. The world needs more of that. A text, a phone call, a postcard, a hug, even a cheeky tag on facebook.
- Accept that not everyone will like you and that’s OK. Keep doing you. We all want acceptance.
- Stand up for what you believe in.Your beliefs are not odd, despite what other people think of them.
- Your best is ALWAYS enough.
- Plans are nice, but you don’t always need one.Sometimes not having a plan can actually be the best plan of all.
When in doubt, listen to Taylor. She is completely right. There is so much more to life than boys. You will realise bigger dreams of yours.
Here are the 10 pieces of advice I would give younger me.