“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” – Steve Furtick
As I write this, it’s Sunday evening. I’ve had a get-stuff-done kinda day and I’m sat on my bed scrolling through Instagram and feeling as if my life is as bland as a bare cream cracker.
Don’t get me wrong, I think people can give Social Media a hard time, it’s a great place to express ourselves, it’s basically a digital diary and it connects us with people we otherwise wouldn’t be connecting with… but it can also be pretty damaging.
As I scroll I see flawless faces, desirable figures and beautiful outfits, one after another. The adventures people are going on, the events they attend and the glam of it all makes me really question what the heck am I doing with my life. Because, in comparison, mine can seem boring.
But the reality is, Social Media is a platform where people can showcase the best bits of their life… the naff bits often get left out of it. I mean, I sure as hell don’t share when I’ve had a pants day, or take a selfie when I’m not feeling my best. Why would you?
So when you find yourself scrolling through Instagram, remember these are, for the most part, the best bits of peoples’ days. The sunniest moments.
Something I heard someone say recently was that Instagram should be like flicking through a magazine that you want to read. If a particular page or hashtag makes you feel crappy – unfollow it. Now. Do it.
Why do we torture ourselves like this? I catch myself staring at pictures of other people in bikinis, experience a gut wrenching disdain for myself and think ‘I should skip dinner tonight’.
The sad thing is, I don’t think this is an unusual feeling to experience. But it’s not until you talk to someone about it that you realise how illogical it is. It’s just a picture, maybe a good angle, maybe even photoshopped (and therefore completely unattainable anyway, just sayin’). Either way, we’re all different and that’s what makes us special. If we all looked the same that’s when life would be really bland.
None the less feeling pants about yourself isn’t OK. It’s not OK for you to feel anything less than ENOUGH just as you are.
So hit the unfollow button.
When I can feel myself comparing my life to that to others, I try and switch off. I honestly think that it’s one of the only things that keep me sane some days. One thing I have learnt since starting up my blog is that switching off from Social Media for a few hours, or even all day, not only helps with your creativity, it keeps you sane. Comparison truly is the thief of joy (round of applause for Theodore Roosevelt, he hit the nail on the head with that one).
You should never feel that your life is boring compared to others – you’re just doing YOU and that’s awesome. We never know what’s going on behind that picture and nobody’s life is perfect. Please don’t feel like you need to compete with others to keep your feed interesting – I find the most down to earth and honest feeds are my favourite BECAUSE IT’S REAL. You shouldn’t feel like you have to post every day either, because I’ve tried that and all it does it create less quality content… post when you want to, when you have something to say and something to share.
At the end of the day, followers and likes are not proof of a person’s worth. You are worthy just as you are.
You are smashing it – keep going!